I'm Steve Sawyer, a licensed clinical social worker & substance abuse counselor.

My work focuses on the connection between trauma and addiction, particularly in the context of self-regulation the ability to manage our emotions and regulate the nervous system in today's highly stressful world.

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Effective self-regulation requires a set of tools to help us achieve balance. At times, we need to perform at a high level with clear focus, while at other times, we need to calm ourselves after stressful events. The concept of Taming the Fire is a model designed to help individuals regain control over their nervous systems, particularly in response to acute stress and traumatic experiences.

Steps in Self-Regulation

Body Awareness (Interoception)

The first step involves developing a connection with the body. This process begins with techniques such as the "HeartMath" method, which fosters awareness of internal sensations and supports regulation.​​

Core Concepts Covered:

Once body awareness is established, we focus on the felt sense of the heart and controlled breathing techniques. These practices help calm the nervous system at a fundamental level, enabling the amygdala and other brain regions to achieve a state of equilibrium.​​

Accessing the Attachment Pathway

Once the nervous system is in a more regulated state, we can tap into the power of relationships, particularly through emotions such as appreciation and gratitude. These emotions activate our attachment pathways—our earliest safety mechanisms developed through interactions with caregivers. Feeling nurtured and supported helps to reinforce long-term emotional resilience.

The Goal of Taming the Fire

Taming the Fire is a structured system that prepares individuals for self-regulation by addressing their current stress state. It incorporates various techniques such as HeartMath and other evidence-based approaches. The process involves not only immediate regulation but also long-term practices that promote lasting emotional balance.

By following this approach, individuals can develop the skills necessary to maintain nervous system regulation throughout their lives, regardless of external circumstances.